For boys (and parents) in high schools, here is a small vademecum to keep in mind more of the Latin and function study variations because ” self-esteem and self- confidence are warm feelings that belong to our children and their push to fight to recover or overcome obstacles “. The vademecum is by Alessandro Artini, a former philosophy teacher, now a passionate headmaster and father of a 17-year-old like many others, who offered him the inspiration to write a book “No bad grade is forever”, just published by Ponte alle Grazie, on the most important school subject of all: self-esteem.
“The school needs great coaches, not just evaluators”
- you are worth: do not allow any teacher to undermine your security. A vote is always remediable.
- choose the road: “no wind is favorable to the sailor who does not know where to go”, that is to say: choose carefully the high school, follow your inclinations and your talents.
- one step at a time: give yourself small goals from the first quarter, for example, the sufficiency in the most important subjects or a good grade in the ones you love the most and learn to find successes or mistakes on yourself.
- look for your Pygmalion! teachers, maybe not everyone but someone for sure, invest in you and believe in your abilities: when they make you feel important, you won’t let them down, that’s for sure.
- the vote counts: we are all subject to the evaluation of others: there are formal votes, those on the register, but also the opinions of your friends. To grow, you must take note: sometimes a few votes hurt, sometimes someone denies us his friendship.
- mistakes are needed: if you mess up you don’t have a stigma on your forehead, you’re not a landslide. Ask your teacher for help to regain confidence with the discipline: learn to enjoy small successes and improvements, never think that there are ‘insurmountable’ subjects.
- if you copy scrub yourself: the dirty game? Fascinating, but does not pay. In the verifications the competition must be fair: each one puts himself to the test with his own strength. Do you think you’re screwing the teacher? You’re screwing yourself up and, often, it’s worse than before.
- keep your parents at bay: I know, sometimes mum and dad are fixed with votes or project their successes (or failures) on your life: be strong, affirm your diversity (even with some small transgressions, come on!).
- the biggest lies are the ones you say to yourself : lying about the vows is useless: try to recognize who you are in front of the mirror, talk to your friends, parents, even teachers if you have difficulties and trust: real life is always better than any parallel world (and then it is difficult not to contradict oneself, when one says too many lies).
- the prof are your best allies! Do not you believe it? Test. Disputing is not necessary, it is better to look for a frank and open dialogue that includes your participation and collaboration in school life, the choice to deepen themes or topics that interest you. School is not an abstract reality: you are the school, together with your classmates and prof